All right, I know this will seem random because...it is kind of random. I just read this post on someone else's blog (someone I don't even know) and I thought it was so insightful that I wanted to post a link to it here.
After losing our first daughter, Elle, I feel much better equipped to deal with grieving people than I did before, only because I know what was helpful or not helpful to me and Grant. I've had so many people ask me for advice on how to help their grieving friends and I thought this was extremely on point and such good advice. It was written by a mother of a stillborn daughter but I think it basically applies to someone grieving the loss of ANY loved one. I'm also going to link to it over in my sidebar, for future reference.
(FYI- there is a short, first section and then about 10 more short sections following it and I think they are all excellent, but you have to click on each one to read it.)
4 comments:
Thanks for this link, I think this is really insightful. You had me crying at work thinking of you guys and Elle.
Love you!
Christin
that was a really good link court. it really helps to know what you and grant were going through. i love you!
I have been moved to tears reading these articles on grief. I have reacted to it in two ways: as a person who experienced a double grief....1) losing my grandchild and watching my child grieve and 2) also as a psychotherapist.
The therapist in me was so touched by how amazingly helpful this will be to pass on to others who are grieving and to those who want to help the bereaved. It is helpful to those needing help in how to give to those who are grieving but also helpful to the bereaved in that it was so normalizing of the ways a person feels living in this loss. She was describing symptoms of depression that are so common after profound loss, but she gave such insightful, direct, practical and helpful ways to give and help a grieving friend.
The mother and grandmother in me reacted emotionally. I was moved and touched...and am remembering Elle...always.
I'm a little behind in reading your blog .. sorry! But so wanted to comment on this grieving article. AWESOME to get this information .. It does help to better understand you and Grant and many others and one day, what I may need if I lose one of my family which of course I hope won't happen in my lifetime!
I read every article ... Each was very insightful and informative reading ... Hopefully others will read them too.
Thanks Court! You're doing a great thing here!
Love to you and the other two!
Benton/Poppy!
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